I Will Destroy You

I know this breaks the immersion of my blog, but I just want to make it abundantly clear how I feel about trans men when I'm not on this blog. There are far too many blogs on this site where it's hard to know where the blogger draws the line between their fantasies and their actual views, and I don't want to be another one of those guys where you have to worry that I genuinely think you're inferior to me. That's why I've tried to make it clear in both my bio and my pinned post that these aren't my true feelings, but I wanted to just explain further for a minute.

Long story short, you're wonderful people who are just as much men as I am, and I will always be committed to defending that point. While cis men shouldn't have to personally know trans men to feel this way, my main example is my boyfriend. He's trans and he's the best man I know. And, while I write the captions for this blog, he's the true mastermind behind it because this was his kink before mine and he gives me a lot of inspiration. Despite the blog's theme, it's the creativity and sexiness of trans men that pioneered it.

Trans men have taught me so much about masculinity, and I think that's why a lot of cis men are intimidated by you. A lot of us define ourselves by our masculinity and define our masculinity by very superficial characteristics like our dicks or muscles; those are the things we're taught to care about when we're growing up. It can be confronting to see a group of people be so sure about themselves and their masculinity without necessarily having or caring about those traits (obviously you can have dicks and lots of muscles, but I think you get the point I'm trying to make). You understand that you're men outside of the things we think make us men. I've become so much more comfortable with my masculinity looking at it through the view of knowing that I "am" a man, rather than trying to "be" a man.

I also wanted to clarify something about my bio. I say that I'm "mostly gay", but in reality I'm 100% gay. Originally I wrote "bisexual with a preference for men", but changed it because it felt a bit too disingenuous. The reason I've left it a little vague is because I know some of you that are into this kind of fantasy like when the guy dominating you is into women and sees you that way. In reality, this isn't true for me in the slightest, but I wanted to leave a little bit of room for that interpretation.

On that note, there are a few reasons why this blog doesn't tend to cover topics like detransition and misgendering (and, by extension, things like pregnancy). Basically: 1) I have no interest in women, so seeing you as women does absolutely nothing for me; 2) My boyfriend isn't into that at all and this blog is an extension of our kink; and 3) Despite how extreme some of the things I write are, it still just feels wrong to call you women, it goes against my entire world view. Knowing that trans men are men has helped me and it's important to me.

There's so much more I could say, and maybe I will at some point, but I really just wanted to clarify that I have so much respect for you. I hope you're only interacting with my blog if this type of fantasy genuinely turns you on, and if you find it making you too insecure or triggering your dysphoria I implore you not to engage with it. Check in with yourself as often as you need to to remind yourself that you are deserving of respect and you are just as important and masculine as any cis man.

If you're a trans man, I hope you're having a wonderful day and that things are generally going well for you. Obviously sexual attention shouldn't define your worth, but as someone who's only into guys I find you incredibly sexy and deserving of any cis man with enough of a brain to love you.